You can’t fix it, if you don’t know it’s broke.
It never dawned on me years ago there was any other way but mine. I had it all under control. The Bible couldn’t possibly help me in the day to day of marriage and parenting.
Stubbornness proved unwise. The same mistakes were made over and over again. Nothing about my parenting, marriage or life seemed to improve. My intentions were good but as they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. All the while, I was stuck.
I was even counseled by my dad. But no matter how biblically wise the words were, I was content to live on just the spiritual milk. Unable to understand the application of the Word kept me from succeeding in every area of my life and robbed me of many blessings.
My accountability partner, who is also my Dad, finally pushed me to see, spiritually. God used him to help me get past my selfish inclinations and my inability to understand.
My last post introduced you to the idea of having an accountability partner. Do you feel God calling you to grow? Maybe you repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Maybe you are getting in your own way. Are you ready to receive God’s Word on a deeper, more personal level?
If so, I’ll share with you what I’ve learned over the years.
First, a relationship doesn’t have to carry the title “Accountability Partner”. There have been a few women in my life who have held me accountable just through our friendship. Understand though, I intentionally chose to spend time with these women, to build a relationship. Accountability comes from relationships and one with a grounded Biblical woman will help you grow.
Second, it is essential you are open to receiving God’s Word, whether it’s pleasant or not. This was my stumbling block. God’s Word required I change, sometimes even give things up! No way. I was hanging on to my old way of doing things.
I am here to tell you that was a stupid idea. My way of doing things wasn’t working! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result.
Once open to change on my part, everything changed! I’m just sorry it took me so long.
Third, also essential from anyone you consider walking with through your journey of growth…a model of Christ. Now don’t misunderstand, perfection is unattainable in this life.
Know the difference.
Just because a woman directs a Christian ministry, doesn’t mean she’s automatically Biblical. No one but God knows her heart. You however must discern her fruits.
For example, if this same woman habitually has a critical spirit and gossips, she bares bad fruit. A critical spirit cannot rebuke with love. If she gossips about others she will indeed gossip about you! Don’t walk, run from these kinds of women.
The woman you are looking for exudes Fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). This means she is capable of demonstrating to you how to walk out the Word.
That kind of woman is worth her weight in gold.
Lastly, life experience teaches hard earned lessons. Women, who excitedly share how God has taken their sin and despair and turned it into joy while simultaneously demonstrating genuine humility, gained wisdom from God. These kinds of women walk out their faith in uplifting ways. It is a joy to call them friend.
So, now what?
Pray. Pray that God opens your heart to receiving the depths of His Word. Ask if God desires for you to have an accountability partner. Ask what that looks like in your life.
To my dad and those few Biblical women who gently shined the light, I am and will always be grateful. I am blessed to know you and love you so very much.
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