One year is coming to a close and the new one is approaching. Are you feeling the urge to make some New Year’s Resolutions? I’m not. Instead I’m setting goals for the New Year, incremental, realistic, reasonable goals. This year consider creating goals and solutions that are bound to succeed!
Many years ago, I tried making New Year’s resolutions. Goals were made then remained unreached. Of course by March I was over it. By the year’s end I hadn’t achieved much. New Year’s rolled around again and I succumbed to defeat. What a pointless endeavor! Why should I make more resolutions? Oh, the weight of failure feels awesome! I’m signing up for more of that!
New Year’s Resolutions Gone Wrong
My first problem, I made no committed, specific goals. I would ponder the idea of “being healthy” or “lose weight”. And that was pretty much it!
Second problem, when I did come up with an actual goal, such as lose weight, my plan was vague and flaky. I didn’t think through how exactly that would happen. Eat right? Exercise more? Both? So instead, I’d join a gym and not go. I would eat a salad once a month. The rest of my meals consisted of frustration and guilt. Yum.
My third problem was unwillingness to adjust my goals if they weren’t working…and clearly they weren’t. My husband, a former Marine, always says, “No plan survives first contact.” That’s very often true.
My goal to lose 2 pounds a week, for instance, never happened. So after two months, I sulked around the house listening to my internal negative dialogue of failure.
I finally realized “resolutions” didn’t mean commitment to me. The word “resolution” somehow morphed into “creating an unreasonable, lofty goal with no real plan hoping somehow it would magically happen but probably not”. The word “resolution” now has a negative sting to it. So I’m tossing it out of my vocabulary.
Motivation, however, was probably my biggest problem. Why did I want to lose weight? Why did I want to be healthy? Being healthy and losing weight was ultimately about my vanity.
What did God want for me that year? Hmmm, I didn’t ask. I was focused on…well, me.
Giving something up to obtain a goal, never crossed my mind. My mind swirled with distractions. I wasted countless hours staring at a screen and oodles of energy on fruitless activities (like shopping).
To sum it up, I was motivated by my plans and not God’s and my plans weren’t getting anywhere.
The NEW New Year
My first step, asking God what His goals for my new year will be. How exciting to get a glimpse of God’s Plans for my life. The Plans may be very specific or general. But as I soak in the words and promptings of God I am assured…
“Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” Proverbs 16:3 NIV
“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6 NIV
Commit 2017 to God and count it all joy!